What is Life Coaching Mirror Technique

Dearest True Self,

The focus of this article is to discuss and make you understand two important questions in a very simple, straight forward way.

Question 1: What is Life Coaching?

Question 2: What is the main job of a Life Coach?

Sounds too technical?

Let’s make it fun by way of an easy and symbolic example. But before we talk about the Secret Mirror Technique, lets get some basic facts about life coaching definition out of our way.

Life Coaching helps you change something in your life that you want to change. It assists you in reaching your goals. Life Coaching is based on a set of principles.

One, you must be willing to change something in your life. The need to attain a goal should be present in you.

Two, you have either tried to do it alone and failed or you just don’t know how to achieve your goal or you don’t want to even try alone due to the fear of failing

Three, your best knowledge has brought you where you are today but you need some extra help and knowledge to take you further

Four, life coaching focuses on your future

Five, you are the only person who knows yourself the best and that means the life coach or any other person does not have the answer to your challenge

Six, it is all about making you clear about yourself. This is based on one of the Core Beliefs and Values of Humanity.

Seven, life coaching is not about advising, mentoring, solving medical issues (therapy, mental and psychological help, medicinal help) BUT in case where additional help is required, life coaching can work side by side

Think of it as a Secret Mirror.Life Coaching-The Right kind of Mirror Technique

The Mirror Technique

Tell me What is the purpose of a mirror?

To reflect, isn’t it.

If I hold a mirror in front of your face, what will you see in it?

Your face, right?

You will see yourself in the mirror. You will reflect yourself back. You notice your eyes, your nose, your lips, your chin. That is what the mirror’s job is. To show you who you are.

A life coach does just exactly that. Really, that’s about it. Sounds weird? Read ahead….

As life coaching is based on this Core Belief of all knowledge that you need is within you, the only job left on your part is to make an effort and discover it.

How will you discover that solution; the answer to the problem you have?

Through reflection

You reflect within yourself and around you on everything linked (people, circumstance, thing) to you

But, then why sometimes you cannot find the answers yourself ?

Great question!

Because, you need a special kind of mirror to reflect differently sometimes.


This is where a Life Coach comes into the picture. A life coach provides you the Right Kind of Mirror to Reflect correctly and reach the right point within you where you will find the solution.

It’s a secret mirror because one, it is invisible and two, because it is unique not only for every person but also in every challenge.

A life coach pulls out this secret mirror from your personal bag and then tries to figure out with you which one is right for the present situation. A life coach just holds that mirror up to you by asking you questions that make you think deeply, contemplate and reflect on yourself until there comes a point where you find what you were looking for.

The Right Kind of Mirror asks the right type of questions and the answers to which open doors to transformation of your life.

It might take sometime depending on your goal and your present situation to find solutions and that varies from person to person. Sometimes, people cannot see initially huge benefits from life coaching but after a few sessions they start to understand its importance and realize the changes that are occurring.


Now, re-visit the example putting yourself back in the picture.

How many times do you reflect? How many times have asking questions differently made you understand things better and find solutions? Can you align with the idea of the Mirror Technique? Is this something you, yourself have been doing without noticing?


Putting it all together.

MIRROR: A tool to invoke reflection within you

REFLECTION: An image of yourself that becomes clearer when you think deeply

RIGHT KIND OF MIRROR: The right type of questions that will lead you to solutions


Let me know how much role does Reflection play in your life. Does Self Reflection lead to Solutions? Is there a goal or challenge in your life where you haven’t been able to find the right type of mirror?  What do you do in that case? See you holding the Right Mirror ;]

Happy Reflecting!

~To your One True Self
Peace | Love | Blessings

One True Self Life Coaching
Best Becoming Better

Life Coach: Bridge, Rope and You

Dearest Reader,

Are you surrounded by an ever changing world? A world of innovation in which new terminologies get coined at a remarkably great rate? Does that make you feel over-whelmed?

It sure leaves me over-whelmed.

The need of going over an information again just to remember it makes me exhausted and I wish there is always a better way of understanding and remembering. That is what I always keep looking for.

Here is a  one of the lists that symbolizes our evolutionary journey.

Social Counselor, Psychologist, Psychotherapist, Psychoanalyst, Therapist and now…………Life Coach.


Confused? Isn’t that too much for any-one to handle?


That’s why I have put below a very cool and symbolic example from life. Just for you to look at, understand and remember what a Life Coach is with ease.

Sounds fun?

So, What is a Life Coach? 

Life Coach meaningImagine you are standing at the top of a mountain or some kind of land. Looking straight ahead you can see another mountain or piece of land at a far distance. This other mountain is your destination. Home to great treasure. What separates the two mountains is a body of flowing water. Now, lets talk about the treasure. You really need this treasure to change your life completely. This is the only thing right now that can transform your life.

Your goal is to cross the bridge to get to it. The crossing is an old, shabby, partially broken wooden suspension bridge. It is made up of wooden planks connected together at small intervals.

The loud sound of the cold, gushing water beating the rocks, some of whose tips protrude from under the river, cannot go un-noticed.   You look below to roughly calculate the great height at which the bridge hangs over the rushing stream of water, partially white where it hits the rocks. The calculation lets the chills run down your spine.

To put your focus back to where it belongs, you look straight ahead at your destination. You cannot help notice some of the missing planks of wood in the bridge. The dark, old and rugged wood has small and big cracks that run deep within it.

A flow of questions begin to hit your veins.

Will I be able to do it? What if I fall? How can I balance? How can I make sure to succeed in getting to the other side? Is it worth the risk? Should I just stay where I am? Should I give up? Has others made it before? Can I set an example by making it? Is luck on my side?

With the army of popping questions, you put your right foot forward and start your journey alone. The bridge tilts to the right due to pressure of your weight. You try to move your upper body to the left in a hope to maintain balance. The squeaky sound of the aged wood adds more fear to the task ahead. It seems more difficult than you thought. But you keep going, one step at a time.

For some time.

Alright Stop.

Stop for a moment.

What if there was a hard, fastened, strong rope that hung above the bridge? What if there was a safety rope fastened around you? Would this rope take the fear or at least a great part of fear out of this endeavor? Would it make it easier to get to the other end? Would just knowing that there is support available shift your mindset and put your focus back on your destination? Would the rope make you feel safe?

What is your answer?


Now, re-visit the example putting yourself back in the picture.

Has there been something in your life that you have always wanted to do but have never been able to?

(It could be out of fear, procrastination, lack of support, lack  of clarity or any other reason.)

What if you knew that there was some-one who will listen to you without judgement, support you, believe in you and stand by you while you are doing it. Does this knowledge and presence change how you think, feel and behave about what you want to change or have in your life? Does it provide you that security and assurance that you are looking for?

That’s exactly what a Life Coach does.

A life coach lets you reach your goal by providing support.


Putting it all together.

OPPOSITE MOUNTAIN: It is a place in the future where you want to go. Other word DESTINATION

TREASURE: It is the change that will add riches to your life. It is you what you want to change in the future. Other word GOAL

BRIDGE : The journey that you have to take in order to reach that place in the future where you meet your treasure. Other word ACTION STEPS, LIFE PATH

ROPE: The support that helps you along this journey to reach that place. Other word LIFE COACH

I hope the example of  the Bridge, Rope and You helps you in clarifying the role of a life coach.


Let me know what your destinations and treasures look like by commenting below. See you on the other side of the Bridge.


Happy Treasure Hunting!



One True Self Life Coaching

Best Becoming Better