Dearest True Self,
The focus of this article is to discuss and make you understand two important questions in a very simple, straight forward way.
Question 1: What is Life Coaching?
Question 2: What is the main job of a Life Coach?
Sounds too technical?
Let’s make it fun by way of an easy and symbolic example. But before we talk about the Secret Mirror Technique, lets get some basic facts about life coaching definition out of our way.
Life Coaching helps you change something in your life that you want to change. It assists you in reaching your goals. Life Coaching is based on a set of principles.
One, you must be willing to change something in your life. The need to attain a goal should be present in you.
Two, you have either tried to do it alone and failed or you just don’t know how to achieve your goal or you don’t want to even try alone due to the fear of failing
Three, your best knowledge has brought you where you are today but you need some extra help and knowledge to take you further
Four, life coaching focuses on your future
Five, you are the only person who knows yourself the best and that means the life coach or any other person does not have the answer to your challenge
Six, it is all about making you clear about yourself. This is based on one of the Core Beliefs and Values of Humanity.
Seven, life coaching is not about advising, mentoring, solving medical issues (therapy, mental and psychological help, medicinal help) BUT in case where additional help is required, life coaching can work side by side
Think of it as a Secret Mirror.
The Mirror Technique
Tell me What is the purpose of a mirror?
To reflect, isn’t it.
If I hold a mirror in front of your face, what will you see in it?
Your face, right?
You will see yourself in the mirror. You will reflect yourself back. You notice your eyes, your nose, your lips, your chin. That is what the mirror’s job is. To show you who you are.
A life coach does just exactly that. Really, that’s about it. Sounds weird? Read ahead….
As life coaching is based on this Core Belief of all knowledge that you need is within you, the only job left on your part is to make an effort and discover it.
How will you discover that solution; the answer to the problem you have?
You reflect within yourself and around you on everything linked (people, circumstance, thing) to you
But, then why sometimes you cannot find the answers yourself ?
Because, you need a special kind of mirror to reflect differently sometimes.
THE SECRET MIRROR of Right Kind
This is where a Life Coach comes into the picture. A life coach provides you the Right Kind of Mirror to Reflect correctly and reach the right point within you where you will find the solution.
It’s a secret mirror because one, it is invisible and two, because it is unique not only for every person but also in every challenge.
A life coach pulls out this secret mirror from your personal bag and then tries to figure out with you which one is right for the present situation. A life coach just holds that mirror up to you by asking you questions that make you think deeply, contemplate and reflect on yourself until there comes a point where you find what you were looking for.
The Right Kind of Mirror asks the right type of questions and the answers to which open doors to transformation of your life.
It might take sometime depending on your goal and your present situation to find solutions and that varies from person to person. Sometimes, people cannot see initially huge benefits from life coaching but after a few sessions they start to understand its importance and realize the changes that are occurring.
Now, re-visit the example putting yourself back in the picture.
How many times do you reflect? How many times have asking questions differently made you understand things better and find solutions? Can you align with the idea of the Mirror Technique? Is this something you, yourself have been doing without noticing?
Putting it all together.
MIRROR: A tool to invoke reflection within you
REFLECTION: An image of yourself that becomes clearer when you think deeply
RIGHT KIND OF MIRROR: The right type of questions that will lead you to solutions
Let me know how much role does Reflection play in your life. Does Self Reflection lead to Solutions? Is there a goal or challenge in your life where you haven’t been able to find the right type of mirror? What do you do in that case? See you holding the Right Mirror ;]
~To your One True Self
Peace | Love | Blessings
One True Self Life Coaching
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