The Guy in the Glass

The Guy or Girl in the Glass

Do you want to determine where you are right now in your life instantly? Do you want to get clarity on what is happening in your life and why it is happening? Do you wish to understand why your life is filled with the lack of love, respect, amazing friends, outstanding opportunities and exciting stories to share? Do you want to know all this about your self without much initial reflection?

One of the most authentic and easiest way to know about your state of mind is taking this one simple action exercise. Go and stand in front of the mirror and look at yourself. Do not just stand there and see. Look into the guy or the girl in the mirror.

  1. What is the first thing that comes to your mind?
  2. How do you feel about yourself?
  3. What is the kind of talk you are having with yourself?
  4. What is going in your mind?

These few seconds or more are the litmus test of your current self and the answers you get can change your life forever.

Are the thoughts and self-talk something along these lines?

  1. I am fat and ugly.
  2. Whatever I do, no-one likes me. 
  3. I am a loser. I don’t have success and money like others. 
  4. I am a failure. No matter how hard I try, I will not achieve my goal.
  5. I am simply unlucky.
  6. No-one loves me.
  7. I am not able to be respected.
  8. I hate myself.

If you are the kind of guy or girl who cannot even walk to the glass or cannot look up straight in the glass, then your current self faces even more challenges and needs much more attention.

In either case,if the guy or the girl in the glass, is one that is holding negative images, having negative self-talk or has a list of faults in sight – it is time to wake up and make the bold choice to change what is right now in the guy’s or the girl’s head. This life changing choice can only be made with a will or desire to change your condition and with a firm belief in yourself. You have to put in all the effort that is needed.

The first thing you need to realize is your expectation from life. What is your expectation(s) from life and the people around you?

If you desire love, respect, beauty, happiness and luck or any other thing from life or from other people, you first have to stop and get clear on what thoughts you are having right now about yourself.

If you hate yourself, if you talk to your self with dis-respect, if you believe you are a loser and an extremely unlucky person, how do you believe others to love you, or respect you? How do you expect your life to make you lucky when all you believe, think, concentrate and attach unluckiness with it.

For a second imagine that the guy or girl in the glass were separate from you.

If you cannot love the guy or the girl in the glass, will you recommend that person to others? Will you ask others to love that person? Will you highlight the good stuff about that person when you are not able to see the good qualities of the person? How will you justify telling others to respect the person if you yourself did not show him/her respect?

In fact, it is highly unlikely that you will even want to talk about the guy or the girl with little value and if you talk, it will not be something great or even good.

Always Remember,

  1. You have to love yourself before others can love you. 
  2. You have to respect yourself before others can respect you. 
  3. You have to believe in yourself before others can believe you. 
  4. You have to keep commit to yourself before others can commit to you.
  5. You have to value yourself before others can value you.

And to do all the above and more,

You have to find reasons to be yourself first before others can find, appreciate and value your unique self

On the other hand, you could be a person with a lot of success, money and fame in life but if you are not satisfied with yourself, then nothing matters. What really matters is what you hear from the guy in the glass or the girl in the glass. What really matters is what you see when you meet the guy in the glass or the girl in the glass. Even if the world disapproves or degrades you for taking bold choices or standing firm on your beliefs and protecting your rights, just go in front of the mirror to get rid of the pain and confusion if it ever arises. If you can look straight in the eye of the guy or the girl in the glass, you are on the right path. Forget about the rest!

I am leaving you with this beautiful and inspirational poem. It has been one of my personal favorites and I thought it is time to share it with all of you for some sunny inspiration. You can have a few quiet reflection filled moments with the poem titled, The Guy in the Glass (original version) by Dale Wimbrow. This is the choice you can make for living a life of choice. Live it or Leave it; the choice is up to you. Hope you get some kick out of it! #ownyourkick

The Guy in the Glass
by Dale Wimbrow, (c) 1934

When you get what you want in your struggle for pelf,
And the world makes you King for a day,
Then go to the mirror and look at yourself,
And see what that guy has to say.

For it isn’t your Father, or Mother, or Wife,
Who judgement upon you must pass.
The feller whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the guy staring back from the glass.

He’s the feller to please, never mind all the rest,
For he’s with you clear up to the end,
And you’ve passed your most dangerous, difficult test
If the guy in the glass is your friend.

You may be like Jack Horner and “chisel” a plum,
And think you’re a wonderful guy,
But the man in the glass says you’re only a bum
If you can’t look him straight in the eye.

You can fool the whole world down the pathway of years,
And get pats on the back as you pass,
But your final reward will be heartaches and tears
If you’ve cheated the guy in the glass.


Here’s an image from one of my oldie books!

The Guy Girl in the Glass

Let me know how it inspired you.

~To your One True Self
Peace | Love | Blessings

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The Personality Dress




What is more important to you? Wearing a grand personality dress or a brand dress?

My reflection on the above comes from my personal life experiences. I get inspired and moved by people with tremendously awesome and genuine personality. When I meet them, I want to hang out with them, be around them and learn from them. Many times I have met people who have vibes of immense positivity and a charismatic personality that leaves me in awe. My eyes look beyond and even do not notice what they are wearing or how beautiful they are but it sub-consciously realizes their unique, true personality dress that appears popping over and beyond their clothing dress. In fact, they appear beautiful or even more beautiful than many beautiful people by standards of today. This has always been true to me.


I also came across a completely different crowd who believed that without expensive clothes and accessories, a person is not valuable and respectable. You might have also met people who are dressed in designer wear and branded from head to toe but some of them are clearly not valuable or beautiful people by any definition. You would like to run away or stay miles apart from them.

There is a group of people who no matter what they wear or however they look; skinny or fat, is loveable and inspirational and the other group no matter how much money they spend on their appearance are far from even being likeable, let alone inspiration.

As for my personal self in the past, I failed to understand the reasons and importance behind this personality dress. I looked in the mirror and did a lot of negative talk in my mind. I hated the way I looked, I hated my skin, my hair, my figure. At that time, I did not understand the idea of being comfortable in my skin. Yet all these people from the first group, no matter how not so good looking had a magic woven around them. A magic of confidence, a magic of satisfaction, a magic of peace and happiness. Why and How?

My reflection led me to understand the Why. The reasons became clear and led me into asking myself a question. What is my personality dress?  Do I need to invest in its change? The answer was certainly yes. This brought me face-to-face with one of the most important life choice?  How do I dress up my personality? What are the ways and choices to make to reach this goal?

Wearing expensive clothes is not a bad thing but it does not have the edge over wearing a beautiful, vibrant, happy, peaceful, positive, confident, transparent personality dress.

Reflect on your personal life and tell me,

Have you come across such people that sweep you off your feet just with their genuineness and truth?

Have you met a stranger whose smile just made your day?

If you have such people in your life, be grateful. and if you really have felt their amazing power of love and positivity, then try resembling them by discovering and bringing out your own true, warm and genuine self.


Invest in YOUR INNER APPEARANCE more than investing on your OUTER APPEARANCE. BALANCE your spending between your outward dress and your INWARD DRESS of PERSONALITY. Dress yourself with a GREAT and GORGEOUS personality.

Wear the UNIQUE Style YOU OWN!


Looking to hear your experiences on the same.

~To your One True Self
Peace | Love | Blessings


Three Step Life Choice Formula of Dream,Dare,Do


The Three Step Life Choice Formula of Dream,Dare,Do

The three simple steps from Concept to Reality, from your Mind’s World to the Real World, from Thought to Action and from Within You to outside of You!

Step 1) DREAM of what you wish to be or wish to accomplish (Goal)

Step 2) DARE to believe in Yourself and Your God given Abilities

Step 3) DO by taking action and putting your RIGHT FOOT FORWARD by taking the FIRST YET THE MOST IMPORTANT AND SUBSTANTIAL small step.


I Dreamt of helping people, motivating change and transforming their lives for the better and in the event spreading positive and loving vibrations around me and in this world to last till the world remains in its form but I was stuck in a job that paid me well, gave me some accomplishment but did not satisfy my innate desire and God given abilities and purpose of living. I had no clue what to do and how to come out of my shades of unfulfilled life and be alive in every moment of it. I thought I cannot be alive. I thought I cannot feel the blood gushing in my veins once again making me happy and giving me a sense of moving life. Everything moved past me; my days and my nights but I DID NOT MOVE. I was stagnant. I could not decide or discover on the best way to move forward and reach out for my happiness.

And then one day, my search brought me to Life Coaching. I discovered a way to elevate myself out of my low state to elated happiness. I discovered a path to professionally grow myself and help others around me by bringing them out of where I was once. By helping them discover their own solutions, by being there for them, by bringing them out of the place where I was once. I decided that I have to help others like me (in the past) who are stuck, lost and confused with their life challenges and goals. I decided to give others what I did not have once. But to do that I had to follow a difficult path. I had to put effort. I had to burn the midnight oil and struggle. and that is when my three letter word Dream, Dare and Do came into being.

Dare to Dream and Dare to Do!

I coined it. I practiced it and I experienced the results and now you can see and experience the results and the product too. By witnessing and connecting with me. I am the Final Product. Alive and Kicking with Inspiration.


Step 1) DREAM I dreamed of having a career based on my true calling helping other ladies through Personal and Professional Life Coaching and Personal Development

Step 2) DARE I dared to believe in myself and my God given abilities and punched out all the limitations inside me that kept me where I was before

Step 3) DO I did what I had to do and found the path to my happiness and fulfillment. I researched and found a program that will take me to where I wanted to go. I invested my money, my time and my energy in it. I made a plan. I worked extra hours along with my full time job and family responsibilities and I became a Certified and Professional Life Coach.


If I can do it, so can you!

Looking to hear your experiences on the same.

~To your One True Self
Peace | Love | Blessings
Live a Life of Choice; not Chance

THE Positive Pespective


What do you see when faced with a challenge or difficulty? How do you take it? Is it an opportunity to grow or a difficulty to put you down?


You see what you want to see!

And that is so Right! Often, we see the world with our own pair of eyes, our own color of mind in a specific period of time. If we stop and reflect, we can notice this very well.

If one door closes on us, we get depressed. If we do not get the job we wanted, the shopping item on our list, or land into a difficult situation like a road accident, miss a chance at something or fall into a tragedy of life like losing a loved one, ending a long relationship, or something of the sort – we surround our self and our mind with the vicious circle of unhappy thoughts and feelings.


You find what you want to find. It is often Hard but not Impossible to SEE the GOOD or FIND the GOOD. There are times when the good is not clear and apparent and sometimes you will never know what was the good in a happening in life. Moreover, you do not control external situations and happenings occurring in your life. Infact, you cannot control them. But what can you control then?

You can control how you look at them and how you behave towards them after they have happened. That is TRULY AND TOTALLY in YOUR HANDS. That is YOUR CHOICE.



You must know this if you have taken pictures with a camera. When you focus on what is close to you, everything else fades out in the background and when you change the focus to what is in the distance, what is near fades out.

In my own personal life, I was not able to move to a different location myself. When I knocked at many doors, I found them closed. Some of these doors related to work opportunities. I could not understand why and felt frustrated thinking, imagining and believing that the world has closed on me. I cannot move forward in life no matter how much I try. I could not see the good in all that was happening to me at that time. And then I realized something deep down. I realized it in my soul once my mother left me to rest in peace. I could see how what I saw as limitations were blessings to me. How I got the opportunity to be there for my mother and do as little as I could do for her in her short life compared to many other people around me. Yes, it was an opportunity to remain and spend and give back to my mother to later find peace in my heart that I had not left her alone when she most needed me.

I had the belief of everything happens for the good even before but when life got really difficult, it was shaken. My closest and dearest support people and friends made me remember that every dark cloud has a silver lining. And it is right to say that such a big event and tremendous realization brought me face to face with this belief once again. It strengthened and reinforced it.

Difficult times will come and difficult times will go. What matters is how we respond to them and behave while we are in these difficult times. Do we see the good or start focusing on the bad?


It all starts with a simple Belief! Start Believing in Good! Share and inspire with your comments.

Peace | Love | Blessings
~To your One True Self

Live a Life of Choice; not Chance

Believe in Self-Belief

YOU and YOUR Self-Belief!

Believe in Self-Belief! Do YOU?


Yes! Have you noticed how Powerful Beliefs are? Have you Reflected and Thought about Your Beliefs about Yourself?


HAVE NOT understood the Art and Science of Personal Belief

HAVE NOT spent time reflecting on Your Personal Belief System and How it Helps or Hinders You

HAVE NOT thought that Life can change immensely with a Simple and Slight Shift in Belief

HAVE only spent time trying to find someone or something to blame instead

HAVE only waited for someone to come and say that they believe in You

HAVE only believed that this is it and you do not have a choice to do more



Understand the science of belief. Learn the art of belief through knowledge, guidance, support and practice.



Yes! In order for you to be the person you desire and the life you wish to live, you have to first see it in your mind’s eyes. And in order to see that wonderful, lovely, and awesome image of yourself, you have to first believe in it fully in the deepest level of your subconscious; with your heart and soul.

Don’t let your inner demons stop you from it. Don’t let your limiting beliefs fail your fight.

You are a Warrior! So hold on to your belief firmly, kill your fears and limitations, pat yourself on the back, love yourself truly and celebrate the Real, Beautiful and Better You!


It all starts with a simple Belief! Start Believing in Yourself! 

Let’s Share and Grow! Looking to hear your experiences on the same.

~To your One True Self
Peace | Love | Blessings
Live a Life of Choice; not Chance

In Between Life,Light and Darkness

LIFE Happens in between Light and Darkness! Do you agree?

Life happens or strikes like lightening sometimes. The brightness of lightening reveals a lot that was always there but you were unable to see it before and then there is darkness once again until lightening strikes again.

Life,Light and Darkness

Has life happened to you lately? Have you been through a traumatic or difficult experience? Have you felt that a bolt of lightening has hit you and jolted you leaving you shaky?

What happened next? Did you become more sore, more depressed, more angry, more unhappy, or more frustrated? Did you find people or events to blame?


Did you try to see the Positive Lessons, your Inner Strengths, the New Realizations and the New Opportunities when the lightening lit up Your Surroundings?

YES, it did some superficial and on the surface damage. But it also opened doors of Reflection, of New Paths and of New Treasures.

Take Life as a Gift. Take Difficulties as periods to Reflect, Learn and Grow. They have a lot to teach. If you cannot understand what is there to learn, find a person who is trained to help you through the Better and Positive change. Reach out to those who are skilled to do this.

You have a choice! You always have a choice.

Now, when a bad event happens, you can see it as another misery and sit, cry, get more depressed, blame or you can see the opportunity to Move Forward in life by taking the Right Action.

If not that, You can atleast realize that you are Stronger than many others to have gone through the Difficulty and Survived it. You can see the Inner Courage. SEE YOUR STRENGTHS, because I KNOW, I BELIEVE that YOU ARE STRONG. DO NOT just let it pass. Take YOURSELF AND YOU LIFE SERIOUSLY!

DISCOVER YOUR REAL SELF SO YOU CAN START LOVING YOURSELF and STOP DEPENDING on external things, external people and their assuring compliments, and external situations to FIND REASONS TO LOVE WHO YOU ARE.

Looking to hear your experiences on the same.

~To your One True Self
Peace | Love | Blessings
Live a Life of Choice; not Chance