The Hand Technique of Self Coaching

Dearest True Self,

I am going to share with you one of my core beliefs from my core beliefs and values checklist. This is an extremely important belief and I never knew before diving into the world of Life Coaching that it relates to this service so much. So, now I call it a Core Belief of Human Life and Life coaching.

Core Belief of Life

I not only practice it but also encourage all the people I connect to plus my clients to incorporate and apply it in their lives. It is a very realistic belief as it strongly pertains to Personal Responsibility; the most important human trait.

Your PROVIDENCE has Provided YOU with everything you will need on this earth.

What that means is that you were sent with all the resources you will ever need in this life. Resources could be anything from knowledge to staying alive and everything in between.

When everything is provided to us then why do we get stuck at dead ends and cross roads?

Good question. To arrive at an answer though, you have to take a small journey towards it.

Lets do this together.

Combining Core Belief of Life and Self Coaching

The Hand and Fist Technique of Life Coaching

Put forward your right hand away from your body, palm facing up.

Come on, do it with me.

Everything that you would every need during your stay on this earth was kept in your hand by THE HAND of GOD. Look at your extended right hand. Every thing is there in your hand. It was placed there when you were born.

Now, close your hand. Look at your fist.

This is what happened after you gained consciousness and grew understanding. This is the second step that you might not have a realization about. and this is an incredibly important step as far as your need for awareness is concerned.

Now, if you were to get some information, knowledge or answer out of your hand, what do you need to do? Your hand contains everything but right now it is very tightly closed.

Tell me. What do you need to do?

Open your fist, right?

Consider this. Every time you are confused, stuck, blocked at a dead end or at a cross road, you need to open your fist.

How can you open your fist?

To open your fist, you need a key but every time you require a different type of key. A very specific key for a very specific question or situation.

The next question you might have is Where is that key? Where can I find it?

Find!

That is most important one word that changes the whole perspective to life. It changes the entire mindset. It creates a Paradigm Shift.

Yes, Find is that word not Key.

What is required of you?

Everything is provided to you but you are required to find it, seek it, make effort and discover it. When you make an effort of finding it, looking for it, it will appear magically from no-where. This is a proven fact. You might have experienced this in your life. If you haven’t, you must have at least wondered how so many people with a very humble beginning and with all the odds against them made to the top? How they became rich and successful? You must have at least read or come across their life stories pointing this fact.

There is a saying If you seek, you can even find GOD.  Meaning that finding GOD being such a difficult thing but if you try, you can even achieve that.

And how is it that you find something?

One, by accepting that you have all the knowledge inside of you

Two, by trying to search for it through deep thinking, contemplation and reflection

And how do you reflect?

By asking yourself the right kind of questions suitable for the specific situation or challenge.

If you are new to this concept, then you should try it out with support of some-one such as a life coach who does exactly this through reflection aimed inwards at you. The coach tries the different combinations of the lock with the key of questions to arrive at solutions.

So, unlock yourself and become who you truly are.

If you are a believer already, you can become a One True Self Activist and share your feedback with the rest of the readers.

REFLECTION TIME

Now, re-visit the The Hand and Fist Technique putting yourself back in the picture.

Has there been something in your life that you have always wanted to change but have never been able to?

What have your thoughts about this been? Did you think that you don’t know how to do this. You don’t have the solution. If you knew, you could have applied the solution already. Maybe some-one else has the solution for you. Maybe they can tell me how to go about it. 

Now, with the new knowledge that you have gained rethink over it.

Look at your hand. It contains the answer but it is closed. It just requires the right key.

Does this awareness make you look at the challenge or goal differently? Does this give you a fresh pair of eyes? A confidence that the goal is in your reach. You just have to try until you find the right key.

What’s your answer to that?

UNDERSTANDING SYMBOLISM

Putting it all together.

HAND: It is the part inside you that has all your answers. Other Word: SOLUTION

KEY: The right question to unlock your resources. Other word: REFLECTION, QUESTION

I hope the example of The Hand and Fist Technique invokes reflection and offers you a fresh perspective to look at your life.

ACTION STEP

Let me know if this is one of your core beliefs as well. If you have been doing this without knowing. If you think, believe and have felt how powerful you are or how powerful a human being is just by believing in this core value and aligning yourself to it.

Happy Unlocking!

~To your One True Self
Peace | Love | Blessings

One True Self Life Coaching
Best Becoming Better

What is Life Coaching Mirror Technique

Dearest True Self,

The focus of this article is to discuss and make you understand two important questions in a very simple, straight forward way.

Question 1: What is Life Coaching?

Question 2: What is the main job of a Life Coach?

Sounds too technical?

Let’s make it fun by way of an easy and symbolic example. But before we talk about the Secret Mirror Technique, lets get some basic facts about life coaching definition out of our way.

Life Coaching helps you change something in your life that you want to change. It assists you in reaching your goals. Life Coaching is based on a set of principles.

One, you must be willing to change something in your life. The need to attain a goal should be present in you.

Two, you have either tried to do it alone and failed or you just don’t know how to achieve your goal or you don’t want to even try alone due to the fear of failing

Three, your best knowledge has brought you where you are today but you need some extra help and knowledge to take you further

Four, life coaching focuses on your future

Five, you are the only person who knows yourself the best and that means the life coach or any other person does not have the answer to your challenge

Six, it is all about making you clear about yourself. This is based on one of the Core Beliefs and Values of Humanity.

Seven, life coaching is not about advising, mentoring, solving medical issues (therapy, mental and psychological help, medicinal help) BUT in case where additional help is required, life coaching can work side by side

Think of it as a Secret Mirror.Life Coaching-The Right kind of Mirror Technique

The Mirror Technique

Tell me What is the purpose of a mirror?

To reflect, isn’t it.

If I hold a mirror in front of your face, what will you see in it?

Your face, right?

You will see yourself in the mirror. You will reflect yourself back. You notice your eyes, your nose, your lips, your chin. That is what the mirror’s job is. To show you who you are.

A life coach does just exactly that. Really, that’s about it. Sounds weird? Read ahead….

As life coaching is based on this Core Belief of all knowledge that you need is within you, the only job left on your part is to make an effort and discover it.

How will you discover that solution; the answer to the problem you have?

Through reflection

You reflect within yourself and around you on everything linked (people, circumstance, thing) to you

But, then why sometimes you cannot find the answers yourself ?

Great question!

Because, you need a special kind of mirror to reflect differently sometimes.

THE SECRET MIRROR of Right Kind

This is where a Life Coach comes into the picture. A life coach provides you the Right Kind of Mirror to Reflect correctly and reach the right point within you where you will find the solution.

It’s a secret mirror because one, it is invisible and two, because it is unique not only for every person but also in every challenge.

A life coach pulls out this secret mirror from your personal bag and then tries to figure out with you which one is right for the present situation. A life coach just holds that mirror up to you by asking you questions that make you think deeply, contemplate and reflect on yourself until there comes a point where you find what you were looking for.

The Right Kind of Mirror asks the right type of questions and the answers to which open doors to transformation of your life.

It might take sometime depending on your goal and your present situation to find solutions and that varies from person to person. Sometimes, people cannot see initially huge benefits from life coaching but after a few sessions they start to understand its importance and realize the changes that are occurring.

REFLECTION TIME

Now, re-visit the example putting yourself back in the picture.

How many times do you reflect? How many times have asking questions differently made you understand things better and find solutions? Can you align with the idea of the Mirror Technique? Is this something you, yourself have been doing without noticing?

UNDERSTANDING SYMBOLISM

Putting it all together.

MIRROR: A tool to invoke reflection within you

REFLECTION: An image of yourself that becomes clearer when you think deeply

RIGHT KIND OF MIRROR: The right type of questions that will lead you to solutions

ACTION STEP

Let me know how much role does Reflection play in your life. Does Self Reflection lead to Solutions? Is there a goal or challenge in your life where you haven’t been able to find the right type of mirror?  What do you do in that case? See you holding the Right Mirror ;]

Happy Reflecting!

~To your One True Self
Peace | Love | Blessings

One True Self Life Coaching
Best Becoming Better

The Guy in the Glass

The Guy or Girl in the Glass

Do you want to determine where you are right now in your life instantly? Do you want to get clarity on what is happening in your life and why it is happening? Do you wish to understand why your life is filled with the lack of love, respect, amazing friends, outstanding opportunities and exciting stories to share? Do you want to know all this about your self without much initial reflection?

One of the most authentic and easiest way to know about your state of mind is taking this one simple action exercise. Go and stand in front of the mirror and look at yourself. Do not just stand there and see. Look into the guy or the girl in the mirror.

  1. What is the first thing that comes to your mind?
  2. How do you feel about yourself?
  3. What is the kind of talk you are having with yourself?
  4. What is going in your mind?

These few seconds or more are the litmus test of your current self and the answers you get can change your life forever.

Are the thoughts and self-talk something along these lines?

  1. I am fat and ugly.
  2. Whatever I do, no-one likes me. 
  3. I am a loser. I don’t have success and money like others. 
  4. I am a failure. No matter how hard I try, I will not achieve my goal.
  5. I am simply unlucky.
  6. No-one loves me.
  7. I am not able to be respected.
  8. I hate myself.

If you are the kind of guy or girl who cannot even walk to the glass or cannot look up straight in the glass, then your current self faces even more challenges and needs much more attention.

In either case,if the guy or the girl in the glass, is one that is holding negative images, having negative self-talk or has a list of faults in sight – it is time to wake up and make the bold choice to change what is right now in the guy’s or the girl’s head. This life changing choice can only be made with a will or desire to change your condition and with a firm belief in yourself. You have to put in all the effort that is needed.

The first thing you need to realize is your expectation from life. What is your expectation(s) from life and the people around you?

If you desire love, respect, beauty, happiness and luck or any other thing from life or from other people, you first have to stop and get clear on what thoughts you are having right now about yourself.

If you hate yourself, if you talk to your self with dis-respect, if you believe you are a loser and an extremely unlucky person, how do you believe others to love you, or respect you? How do you expect your life to make you lucky when all you believe, think, concentrate and attach unluckiness with it.

For a second imagine that the guy or girl in the glass were separate from you.

If you cannot love the guy or the girl in the glass, will you recommend that person to others? Will you ask others to love that person? Will you highlight the good stuff about that person when you are not able to see the good qualities of the person? How will you justify telling others to respect the person if you yourself did not show him/her respect?

In fact, it is highly unlikely that you will even want to talk about the guy or the girl with little value and if you talk, it will not be something great or even good.

Always Remember,

  1. You have to love yourself before others can love you. 
  2. You have to respect yourself before others can respect you. 
  3. You have to believe in yourself before others can believe you. 
  4. You have to keep commit to yourself before others can commit to you.
  5. You have to value yourself before others can value you.

And to do all the above and more,

You have to find reasons to be yourself first before others can find, appreciate and value your unique self

On the other hand, you could be a person with a lot of success, money and fame in life but if you are not satisfied with yourself, then nothing matters. What really matters is what you hear from the guy in the glass or the girl in the glass. What really matters is what you see when you meet the guy in the glass or the girl in the glass. Even if the world disapproves or degrades you for taking bold choices or standing firm on your beliefs and protecting your rights, just go in front of the mirror to get rid of the pain and confusion if it ever arises. If you can look straight in the eye of the guy or the girl in the glass, you are on the right path. Forget about the rest!

I am leaving you with this beautiful and inspirational poem. It has been one of my personal favorites and I thought it is time to share it with all of you for some sunny inspiration. You can have a few quiet reflection filled moments with the poem titled, The Guy in the Glass (original version) by Dale Wimbrow. This is the choice you can make for living a life of choice. Live it or Leave it; the choice is up to you. Hope you get some kick out of it! #ownyourkick

The Guy in the Glass
by Dale Wimbrow, (c) 1934

When you get what you want in your struggle for pelf,
And the world makes you King for a day,
Then go to the mirror and look at yourself,
And see what that guy has to say.

For it isn’t your Father, or Mother, or Wife,
Who judgement upon you must pass.
The feller whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the guy staring back from the glass.

He’s the feller to please, never mind all the rest,
For he’s with you clear up to the end,
And you’ve passed your most dangerous, difficult test
If the guy in the glass is your friend.

You may be like Jack Horner and “chisel” a plum,
And think you’re a wonderful guy,
But the man in the glass says you’re only a bum
If you can’t look him straight in the eye.

You can fool the whole world down the pathway of years,
And get pats on the back as you pass,
But your final reward will be heartaches and tears
If you’ve cheated the guy in the glass.

~~~~~~~~~~

Here’s an image from one of my oldie books!

The Guy Girl in the Glass

Let me know how it inspired you.

~To your One True Self
Peace | Love | Blessings

One True Self Life Coaching – Live a Life of Choice; not Chance
Best Becoming Better

Life Coach: Bridge, Rope and You

Dearest Reader,

Are you surrounded by an ever changing world? A world of innovation in which new terminologies get coined at a remarkably great rate? Does that make you feel over-whelmed?

It sure leaves me over-whelmed.

The need of going over an information again just to remember it makes me exhausted and I wish there is always a better way of understanding and remembering. That is what I always keep looking for.

Here is a  one of the lists that symbolizes our evolutionary journey.

Social Counselor, Psychologist, Psychotherapist, Psychoanalyst, Therapist and now…………Life Coach.

Aaaaaaaaah!

Confused? Isn’t that too much for any-one to handle?

Absolutely!

That’s why I have put below a very cool and symbolic example from life. Just for you to look at, understand and remember what a Life Coach is with ease.

Sounds fun?

So, What is a Life Coach? 

Life Coach meaningImagine you are standing at the top of a mountain or some kind of land. Looking straight ahead you can see another mountain or piece of land at a far distance. This other mountain is your destination. Home to great treasure. What separates the two mountains is a body of flowing water. Now, lets talk about the treasure. You really need this treasure to change your life completely. This is the only thing right now that can transform your life.

Your goal is to cross the bridge to get to it. The crossing is an old, shabby, partially broken wooden suspension bridge. It is made up of wooden planks connected together at small intervals.

The loud sound of the cold, gushing water beating the rocks, some of whose tips protrude from under the river, cannot go un-noticed.   You look below to roughly calculate the great height at which the bridge hangs over the rushing stream of water, partially white where it hits the rocks. The calculation lets the chills run down your spine.

To put your focus back to where it belongs, you look straight ahead at your destination. You cannot help notice some of the missing planks of wood in the bridge. The dark, old and rugged wood has small and big cracks that run deep within it.

A flow of questions begin to hit your veins.

Will I be able to do it? What if I fall? How can I balance? How can I make sure to succeed in getting to the other side? Is it worth the risk? Should I just stay where I am? Should I give up? Has others made it before? Can I set an example by making it? Is luck on my side?

With the army of popping questions, you put your right foot forward and start your journey alone. The bridge tilts to the right due to pressure of your weight. You try to move your upper body to the left in a hope to maintain balance. The squeaky sound of the aged wood adds more fear to the task ahead. It seems more difficult than you thought. But you keep going, one step at a time.

For some time.

Alright Stop.

Stop for a moment.

What if there was a hard, fastened, strong rope that hung above the bridge? What if there was a safety rope fastened around you? Would this rope take the fear or at least a great part of fear out of this endeavor? Would it make it easier to get to the other end? Would just knowing that there is support available shift your mindset and put your focus back on your destination? Would the rope make you feel safe?

What is your answer?

REFLECTION TIME

Now, re-visit the example putting yourself back in the picture.

Has there been something in your life that you have always wanted to do but have never been able to?

(It could be out of fear, procrastination, lack of support, lack  of clarity or any other reason.)

What if you knew that there was some-one who will listen to you without judgement, support you, believe in you and stand by you while you are doing it. Does this knowledge and presence change how you think, feel and behave about what you want to change or have in your life? Does it provide you that security and assurance that you are looking for?

That’s exactly what a Life Coach does.

A life coach lets you reach your goal by providing support.

UNDERSTANDING SYMBOLISM

Putting it all together.

OPPOSITE MOUNTAIN: It is a place in the future where you want to go. Other word DESTINATION

TREASURE: It is the change that will add riches to your life. It is you what you want to change in the future. Other word GOAL

BRIDGE : The journey that you have to take in order to reach that place in the future where you meet your treasure. Other word ACTION STEPS, LIFE PATH

ROPE: The support that helps you along this journey to reach that place. Other word LIFE COACH

I hope the example of  the Bridge, Rope and You helps you in clarifying the role of a life coach.

ACTION STEP

Let me know what your destinations and treasures look like by commenting below. See you on the other side of the Bridge.

 

Happy Treasure Hunting!

Peace

 

One True Self Life Coaching

Best Becoming Better