The Hand Technique of Self Coaching

Dearest True Self,

I am going to share with you one of my core beliefs from my core beliefs and values checklist. This is an extremely important belief and I never knew before diving into the world of Life Coaching that it relates to this service so much. So, now I call it a Core Belief of Human Life and Life coaching.

Core Belief of Life

I not only practice it but also encourage all the people I connect to plus my clients to incorporate and apply it in their lives. It is a very realistic belief as it strongly pertains to Personal Responsibility; the most important human trait.

Your PROVIDENCE has Provided YOU with everything you will need on this earth.

What that means is that you were sent with all the resources you will ever need in this life. Resources could be anything from knowledge to staying alive and everything in between.

When everything is provided to us then why do we get stuck at dead ends and cross roads?

Good question. To arrive at an answer though, you have to take a small journey towards it.

Lets do this together.

Combining Core Belief of Life and Self Coaching

The Hand and Fist Technique of Life Coaching

Put forward your right hand away from your body, palm facing up.

Come on, do it with me.

Everything that you would every need during your stay on this earth was kept in your hand by THE HAND of GOD. Look at your extended right hand. Every thing is there in your hand. It was placed there when you were born.

Now, close your hand. Look at your fist.

This is what happened after you gained consciousness and grew understanding. This is the second step that you might not have a realization about. and this is an incredibly important step as far as your need for awareness is concerned.

Now, if you were to get some information, knowledge or answer out of your hand, what do you need to do? Your hand contains everything but right now it is very tightly closed.

Tell me. What do you need to do?

Open your fist, right?

Consider this. Every time you are confused, stuck, blocked at a dead end or at a cross road, you need to open your fist.

How can you open your fist?

To open your fist, you need a key but every time you require a different type of key. A very specific key for a very specific question or situation.

The next question you might have is Where is that key? Where can I find it?


That is most important one word that changes the whole perspective to life. It changes the entire mindset. It creates a Paradigm Shift.

Yes, Find is that word not Key.

What is required of you?

Everything is provided to you but you are required to find it, seek it, make effort and discover it. When you make an effort of finding it, looking for it, it will appear magically from no-where. This is a proven fact. You might have experienced this in your life. If you haven’t, you must have at least wondered how so many people with a very humble beginning and with all the odds against them made to the top? How they became rich and successful? You must have at least read or come across their life stories pointing this fact.

There is a saying If you seek, you can even find GOD.  Meaning that finding GOD being such a difficult thing but if you try, you can even achieve that.

And how is it that you find something?

One, by accepting that you have all the knowledge inside of you

Two, by trying to search for it through deep thinking, contemplation and reflection

And how do you reflect?

By asking yourself the right kind of questions suitable for the specific situation or challenge.

If you are new to this concept, then you should try it out with support of some-one such as a life coach who does exactly this through reflection aimed inwards at you. The coach tries the different combinations of the lock with the key of questions to arrive at solutions.

So, unlock yourself and become who you truly are.

If you are a believer already, you can become a One True Self Activist and share your feedback with the rest of the readers.


Now, re-visit the The Hand and Fist Technique putting yourself back in the picture.

Has there been something in your life that you have always wanted to change but have never been able to?

What have your thoughts about this been? Did you think that you don’t know how to do this. You don’t have the solution. If you knew, you could have applied the solution already. Maybe some-one else has the solution for you. Maybe they can tell me how to go about it. 

Now, with the new knowledge that you have gained rethink over it.

Look at your hand. It contains the answer but it is closed. It just requires the right key.

Does this awareness make you look at the challenge or goal differently? Does this give you a fresh pair of eyes? A confidence that the goal is in your reach. You just have to try until you find the right key.

What’s your answer to that?


Putting it all together.

HAND: It is the part inside you that has all your answers. Other Word: SOLUTION

KEY: The right question to unlock your resources. Other word: REFLECTION, QUESTION

I hope the example of The Hand and Fist Technique invokes reflection and offers you a fresh perspective to look at your life.


Let me know if this is one of your core beliefs as well. If you have been doing this without knowing. If you think, believe and have felt how powerful you are or how powerful a human being is just by believing in this core value and aligning yourself to it.

Happy Unlocking!

~To your One True Self
Peace | Love | Blessings

One True Self Life Coaching
Best Becoming Better

What is Life Coaching Mirror Technique

Dearest True Self,

The focus of this article is to discuss and make you understand two important questions in a very simple, straight forward way.

Question 1: What is Life Coaching?

Question 2: What is the main job of a Life Coach?

Sounds too technical?

Let’s make it fun by way of an easy and symbolic example. But before we talk about the Secret Mirror Technique, lets get some basic facts about life coaching definition out of our way.

Life Coaching helps you change something in your life that you want to change. It assists you in reaching your goals. Life Coaching is based on a set of principles.

One, you must be willing to change something in your life. The need to attain a goal should be present in you.

Two, you have either tried to do it alone and failed or you just don’t know how to achieve your goal or you don’t want to even try alone due to the fear of failing

Three, your best knowledge has brought you where you are today but you need some extra help and knowledge to take you further

Four, life coaching focuses on your future

Five, you are the only person who knows yourself the best and that means the life coach or any other person does not have the answer to your challenge

Six, it is all about making you clear about yourself. This is based on one of the Core Beliefs and Values of Humanity.

Seven, life coaching is not about advising, mentoring, solving medical issues (therapy, mental and psychological help, medicinal help) BUT in case where additional help is required, life coaching can work side by side

Think of it as a Secret Mirror.Life Coaching-The Right kind of Mirror Technique

The Mirror Technique

Tell me What is the purpose of a mirror?

To reflect, isn’t it.

If I hold a mirror in front of your face, what will you see in it?

Your face, right?

You will see yourself in the mirror. You will reflect yourself back. You notice your eyes, your nose, your lips, your chin. That is what the mirror’s job is. To show you who you are.

A life coach does just exactly that. Really, that’s about it. Sounds weird? Read ahead….

As life coaching is based on this Core Belief of all knowledge that you need is within you, the only job left on your part is to make an effort and discover it.

How will you discover that solution; the answer to the problem you have?

Through reflection

You reflect within yourself and around you on everything linked (people, circumstance, thing) to you

But, then why sometimes you cannot find the answers yourself ?

Great question!

Because, you need a special kind of mirror to reflect differently sometimes.


This is where a Life Coach comes into the picture. A life coach provides you the Right Kind of Mirror to Reflect correctly and reach the right point within you where you will find the solution.

It’s a secret mirror because one, it is invisible and two, because it is unique not only for every person but also in every challenge.

A life coach pulls out this secret mirror from your personal bag and then tries to figure out with you which one is right for the present situation. A life coach just holds that mirror up to you by asking you questions that make you think deeply, contemplate and reflect on yourself until there comes a point where you find what you were looking for.

The Right Kind of Mirror asks the right type of questions and the answers to which open doors to transformation of your life.

It might take sometime depending on your goal and your present situation to find solutions and that varies from person to person. Sometimes, people cannot see initially huge benefits from life coaching but after a few sessions they start to understand its importance and realize the changes that are occurring.


Now, re-visit the example putting yourself back in the picture.

How many times do you reflect? How many times have asking questions differently made you understand things better and find solutions? Can you align with the idea of the Mirror Technique? Is this something you, yourself have been doing without noticing?


Putting it all together.

MIRROR: A tool to invoke reflection within you

REFLECTION: An image of yourself that becomes clearer when you think deeply

RIGHT KIND OF MIRROR: The right type of questions that will lead you to solutions


Let me know how much role does Reflection play in your life. Does Self Reflection lead to Solutions? Is there a goal or challenge in your life where you haven’t been able to find the right type of mirror?  What do you do in that case? See you holding the Right Mirror ;]

Happy Reflecting!

~To your One True Self
Peace | Love | Blessings

One True Self Life Coaching
Best Becoming Better

The Personality Dress




What is more important to you? Wearing a grand personality dress or a brand dress?

My reflection on the above comes from my personal life experiences. I get inspired and moved by people with tremendously awesome and genuine personality. When I meet them, I want to hang out with them, be around them and learn from them. Many times I have met people who have vibes of immense positivity and a charismatic personality that leaves me in awe. My eyes look beyond and even do not notice what they are wearing or how beautiful they are but it sub-consciously realizes their unique, true personality dress that appears popping over and beyond their clothing dress. In fact, they appear beautiful or even more beautiful than many beautiful people by standards of today. This has always been true to me.


I also came across a completely different crowd who believed that without expensive clothes and accessories, a person is not valuable and respectable. You might have also met people who are dressed in designer wear and branded from head to toe but some of them are clearly not valuable or beautiful people by any definition. You would like to run away or stay miles apart from them.

There is a group of people who no matter what they wear or however they look; skinny or fat, is loveable and inspirational and the other group no matter how much money they spend on their appearance are far from even being likeable, let alone inspiration.

As for my personal self in the past, I failed to understand the reasons and importance behind this personality dress. I looked in the mirror and did a lot of negative talk in my mind. I hated the way I looked, I hated my skin, my hair, my figure. At that time, I did not understand the idea of being comfortable in my skin. Yet all these people from the first group, no matter how not so good looking had a magic woven around them. A magic of confidence, a magic of satisfaction, a magic of peace and happiness. Why and How?

My reflection led me to understand the Why. The reasons became clear and led me into asking myself a question. What is my personality dress?  Do I need to invest in its change? The answer was certainly yes. This brought me face-to-face with one of the most important life choice?  How do I dress up my personality? What are the ways and choices to make to reach this goal?

Wearing expensive clothes is not a bad thing but it does not have the edge over wearing a beautiful, vibrant, happy, peaceful, positive, confident, transparent personality dress.

Reflect on your personal life and tell me,

Have you come across such people that sweep you off your feet just with their genuineness and truth?

Have you met a stranger whose smile just made your day?

If you have such people in your life, be grateful. and if you really have felt their amazing power of love and positivity, then try resembling them by discovering and bringing out your own true, warm and genuine self.


Invest in YOUR INNER APPEARANCE more than investing on your OUTER APPEARANCE. BALANCE your spending between your outward dress and your INWARD DRESS of PERSONALITY. Dress yourself with a GREAT and GORGEOUS personality.

Wear the UNIQUE Style YOU OWN!


Looking to hear your experiences on the same.

~To your One True Self
Peace | Love | Blessings


Three Step Life Choice Formula of Dream,Dare,Do


The Three Step Life Choice Formula of Dream,Dare,Do

The three simple steps from Concept to Reality, from your Mind’s World to the Real World, from Thought to Action and from Within You to outside of You!

Step 1) DREAM of what you wish to be or wish to accomplish (Goal)

Step 2) DARE to believe in Yourself and Your God given Abilities

Step 3) DO by taking action and putting your RIGHT FOOT FORWARD by taking the FIRST YET THE MOST IMPORTANT AND SUBSTANTIAL small step.


I Dreamt of helping people, motivating change and transforming their lives for the better and in the event spreading positive and loving vibrations around me and in this world to last till the world remains in its form but I was stuck in a job that paid me well, gave me some accomplishment but did not satisfy my innate desire and God given abilities and purpose of living. I had no clue what to do and how to come out of my shades of unfulfilled life and be alive in every moment of it. I thought I cannot be alive. I thought I cannot feel the blood gushing in my veins once again making me happy and giving me a sense of moving life. Everything moved past me; my days and my nights but I DID NOT MOVE. I was stagnant. I could not decide or discover on the best way to move forward and reach out for my happiness.

And then one day, my search brought me to Life Coaching. I discovered a way to elevate myself out of my low state to elated happiness. I discovered a path to professionally grow myself and help others around me by bringing them out of where I was once. By helping them discover their own solutions, by being there for them, by bringing them out of the place where I was once. I decided that I have to help others like me (in the past) who are stuck, lost and confused with their life challenges and goals. I decided to give others what I did not have once. But to do that I had to follow a difficult path. I had to put effort. I had to burn the midnight oil and struggle. and that is when my three letter word Dream, Dare and Do came into being.

Dare to Dream and Dare to Do!

I coined it. I practiced it and I experienced the results and now you can see and experience the results and the product too. By witnessing and connecting with me. I am the Final Product. Alive and Kicking with Inspiration.


Step 1) DREAM I dreamed of having a career based on my true calling helping other ladies through Personal and Professional Life Coaching and Personal Development

Step 2) DARE I dared to believe in myself and my God given abilities and punched out all the limitations inside me that kept me where I was before

Step 3) DO I did what I had to do and found the path to my happiness and fulfillment. I researched and found a program that will take me to where I wanted to go. I invested my money, my time and my energy in it. I made a plan. I worked extra hours along with my full time job and family responsibilities and I became a Certified and Professional Life Coach.


If I can do it, so can you!

Looking to hear your experiences on the same.

~To your One True Self
Peace | Love | Blessings
Live a Life of Choice; not Chance

THE Positive Pespective


What do you see when faced with a challenge or difficulty? How do you take it? Is it an opportunity to grow or a difficulty to put you down?


You see what you want to see!

And that is so Right! Often, we see the world with our own pair of eyes, our own color of mind in a specific period of time. If we stop and reflect, we can notice this very well.

If one door closes on us, we get depressed. If we do not get the job we wanted, the shopping item on our list, or land into a difficult situation like a road accident, miss a chance at something or fall into a tragedy of life like losing a loved one, ending a long relationship, or something of the sort – we surround our self and our mind with the vicious circle of unhappy thoughts and feelings.


You find what you want to find. It is often Hard but not Impossible to SEE the GOOD or FIND the GOOD. There are times when the good is not clear and apparent and sometimes you will never know what was the good in a happening in life. Moreover, you do not control external situations and happenings occurring in your life. Infact, you cannot control them. But what can you control then?

You can control how you look at them and how you behave towards them after they have happened. That is TRULY AND TOTALLY in YOUR HANDS. That is YOUR CHOICE.



You must know this if you have taken pictures with a camera. When you focus on what is close to you, everything else fades out in the background and when you change the focus to what is in the distance, what is near fades out.

In my own personal life, I was not able to move to a different location myself. When I knocked at many doors, I found them closed. Some of these doors related to work opportunities. I could not understand why and felt frustrated thinking, imagining and believing that the world has closed on me. I cannot move forward in life no matter how much I try. I could not see the good in all that was happening to me at that time. And then I realized something deep down. I realized it in my soul once my mother left me to rest in peace. I could see how what I saw as limitations were blessings to me. How I got the opportunity to be there for my mother and do as little as I could do for her in her short life compared to many other people around me. Yes, it was an opportunity to remain and spend and give back to my mother to later find peace in my heart that I had not left her alone when she most needed me.

I had the belief of everything happens for the good even before but when life got really difficult, it was shaken. My closest and dearest support people and friends made me remember that every dark cloud has a silver lining. And it is right to say that such a big event and tremendous realization brought me face to face with this belief once again. It strengthened and reinforced it.

Difficult times will come and difficult times will go. What matters is how we respond to them and behave while we are in these difficult times. Do we see the good or start focusing on the bad?


It all starts with a simple Belief! Start Believing in Good! Share and inspire with your comments.

Peace | Love | Blessings
~To your One True Self

Live a Life of Choice; not Chance

Believe in Self-Belief

YOU and YOUR Self-Belief!

Believe in Self-Belief! Do YOU?


Yes! Have you noticed how Powerful Beliefs are? Have you Reflected and Thought about Your Beliefs about Yourself?


HAVE NOT understood the Art and Science of Personal Belief

HAVE NOT spent time reflecting on Your Personal Belief System and How it Helps or Hinders You

HAVE NOT thought that Life can change immensely with a Simple and Slight Shift in Belief

HAVE only spent time trying to find someone or something to blame instead

HAVE only waited for someone to come and say that they believe in You

HAVE only believed that this is it and you do not have a choice to do more



Understand the science of belief. Learn the art of belief through knowledge, guidance, support and practice.



Yes! In order for you to be the person you desire and the life you wish to live, you have to first see it in your mind’s eyes. And in order to see that wonderful, lovely, and awesome image of yourself, you have to first believe in it fully in the deepest level of your subconscious; with your heart and soul.

Don’t let your inner demons stop you from it. Don’t let your limiting beliefs fail your fight.

You are a Warrior! So hold on to your belief firmly, kill your fears and limitations, pat yourself on the back, love yourself truly and celebrate the Real, Beautiful and Better You!


It all starts with a simple Belief! Start Believing in Yourself! 

Let’s Share and Grow! Looking to hear your experiences on the same.

~To your One True Self
Peace | Love | Blessings
Live a Life of Choice; not Chance

In Between Life,Light and Darkness

LIFE Happens in between Light and Darkness! Do you agree?

Life happens or strikes like lightening sometimes. The brightness of lightening reveals a lot that was always there but you were unable to see it before and then there is darkness once again until lightening strikes again.

Life,Light and Darkness

Has life happened to you lately? Have you been through a traumatic or difficult experience? Have you felt that a bolt of lightening has hit you and jolted you leaving you shaky?

What happened next? Did you become more sore, more depressed, more angry, more unhappy, or more frustrated? Did you find people or events to blame?


Did you try to see the Positive Lessons, your Inner Strengths, the New Realizations and the New Opportunities when the lightening lit up Your Surroundings?

YES, it did some superficial and on the surface damage. But it also opened doors of Reflection, of New Paths and of New Treasures.

Take Life as a Gift. Take Difficulties as periods to Reflect, Learn and Grow. They have a lot to teach. If you cannot understand what is there to learn, find a person who is trained to help you through the Better and Positive change. Reach out to those who are skilled to do this.

You have a choice! You always have a choice.

Now, when a bad event happens, you can see it as another misery and sit, cry, get more depressed, blame or you can see the opportunity to Move Forward in life by taking the Right Action.

If not that, You can atleast realize that you are Stronger than many others to have gone through the Difficulty and Survived it. You can see the Inner Courage. SEE YOUR STRENGTHS, because I KNOW, I BELIEVE that YOU ARE STRONG. DO NOT just let it pass. Take YOURSELF AND YOU LIFE SERIOUSLY!

DISCOVER YOUR REAL SELF SO YOU CAN START LOVING YOURSELF and STOP DEPENDING on external things, external people and their assuring compliments, and external situations to FIND REASONS TO LOVE WHO YOU ARE.

Looking to hear your experiences on the same.

~To your One True Self
Peace | Love | Blessings
Live a Life of Choice; not Chance